Friday, March 21, 2014

Raising moms or aging moms?


I realize that having kids means automatically getting unsolicited comments, advice etc. from random strangers.  Amy and I found that out about a week after Charly was born – For example - we took her out in public and within minutes some random stranger was pulling her blanket down so they could see her face.  Cue instant mama bears.  Another example - we were walking by a kiosk in the mall when an employee saw our newborn baby and asked which one of us was her mom.  I replied “We both are.”  She then asked “well who is her REAL mom?”  Cue angry mama bears.  We learned to form a thick skin with a quickness.  So the following stories shouldn’t have really bothered me too much.  But nonetheless…

About a month or two ago, Amy and I took the kids to the mall to go clothes shopping at Crazy 8.  The whole store was 40-60% off and I was about to go all Julia Roberts in Pretty Woman on that joint.  The plan was for me to take Colty in the store while Amy took Charly on the carousel (so I could get a few minutes to actually LOOK at the clothes without chasing a toddler).  Amy and Char walked away and went down the escalator, and Colty and I looked over the railing from above, waving.  Charly did not initially see that we were waving, so I started calling her name.  As I am doing this, one of the cleaning staff members was right next to me pushing a giant garbage can.  She sees me waving and calling for Char, so she starts smiling and stops to watch.  Finally, Charly spots us and starts waving and yelling “Hi mama!  Hi Colty!”  The woman smiles and cheers “Look!  She finally saw you!  She’s yelling ‘Hi Grandma!’”  Then she walks away.

Hi Grandma?  I am 32 years old. 

I had no response – I just stood there, embarrassed as all hell.  I don’t embarrass easily, and I had grown some incredibly thick skin since becoming a mother.  But THIS stung! 

I didn’t even tell Amy about it for several days.  And I tell Amy EVERYTHING.  Especially things like this that were actually quite hilarious.  When I finally did tell her, we laughed and decided it was just an isolated incident, and that the woman was obviously crazy.

Until yesterday.

I had a two hour break at school and needed to pass some time.  I decided to go to Once Upon a Child to get the kids some new swimsuits (Yes, I’m admitting I shop there from time to time – I have no shame… We’re poor and buying swimsuits new in spring time is asinine).  I shop around for a while and then go to check-out.  I hand the girl my stuff and grab my credit card.  She rings me up, making pleasant small talk.  She tells me my total, and I hand her my card.  Then she looks at me for a second and says “Well are you a….” and she trails off.  I ask what she was going to say and she decides to finish her sentence.  “Are you a grandma by any chance?  Because it’s grandparent’s day here and grandparents get a 15% discount on all merchandise.”

Are you fricken kidding me?

I sat there for a second, pretending to be digging through my purse because I had no response.  But then in a fit of rage, I looked up at her and I said “Yes.  Yes I am.”

And I saved 15%.
Bash me if you will.

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